One of those things I'm posting just because I can. There is a "Vice Versa" after every point. I can't expect my ideal man to want a wife who isn't striving to live up to the same standards.
1. Following Jesus Christ is my life's top priority. It will ALWAYS come before ANYTHING else, whether that's family, relationships, work, etc. I NEED someone who feels the same way. No exceptions. This includes magnifying church callings, being (or takings steps to become) temple worthy, and recieving personal revelation.
2. God comes first and our relationship comes second over family, work, etc.
3. Good communication thats ALWAYS HONEST WITH NO EXCEPTIONS. I want to know that he can tell me anything. I feel like I'm able to grow faster when the people I care about give me feedback on ways to improve. He can handle criticism, is a good listener, values my opinions even when they differ from his, and is willing to talk through things to find a good comprimise.
4. He knows my strengths, weaknesses, quirks, habits, mannerisms, etc., the real me and loves the whole package. Someone with whom I always feel like I can completely be myself around and that he feels the same way.
5. He brings out the best in me. He loves me as I am, but also see's my potential and inspires me to reach it.
6. Work ethic. He sets goals and doesn't just wait for life to happen. He wants to be better, go places, do things, learn things, live life. All this is done while remembering his priorities (recall item 1. and 2.) I'm a fairly active, adventurous, "go get-er done" sort of person and I needs someone with a similar drive.
7. He shows me that he loves me on a frequent and regular basis. I don't need anything big, extravagent, or expensive. It should just be in the little things. Things like telling me I'm beautiful, picking dandelions for me, giving me a really good hug, etc. We each have our different love languages. Mine are physical touch and quality time. He'll make sure that he communicates his love in a way effective to meeting my needs.
8. Positive, happy, makes me laugh. Life won't always be sunshine, lollipops, and rainbows, but its easier to handle the storms when you're with someone who looks for the silver linings. The world should feel like a more beautiful place because he's in it with me.
9. Compassionate, kind, caring. Someone who is anxious to serve others, desires to help others whether or not he'll get any sort of recognition. Cares about people more than money, ambitions, etc.
10. Men and Women's roles are different but equal. Men are the providers, women are the nurturers. However, in addition to this we are a team. We have our responsibilities but are willing to pick up the slack. Neither one of us is comfortable watching the other work and struggle without doing what we can to pitch in and help.
11. Financially smart. He doesn't have to earn much but he has to be smart with what he does have. He won't expect me to be his "suga mamma".
12. Chemistry. I want there to be a certain magic, a connection, for things to click. When we're finally married I want to wake up in the morning, see him on the other side of the bed and think "I'm the luckiest woman in the world to be with him forever." An addiction, a desire to be with him all the time, to share with him the things I think are most important. Its a lot more than a physical thing. You may argue there are more important things but the way I see it, I only get one.
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